A Blast From the Past - Ex Boyfriends

"When she was tempted to do more than kiss, she remembered how much pain she suffered the first semester when she had lost him as a steady boyfriend." -Unhooked

Boyfriends are such a funny thing. Ex boyfriends are even funnier. About two months ago, my boyfriend and I broke up.  As I deal with break up woes...it happens. My college ex boyfriend reappears. I receive a text message from the college ex declaring all the things I wanted to hear from him when we were together.  In college even though I had the title of girlfriend, I couldn't mange to keep his interest for to long. Now, we are almost grown up and he is back. Why does that always happen?  Now, I am nursing yet another broken heart and I really don't have any desire to reopen wounds, with a blast from the past.  

However a thought did cross my mind.  If my college ex came back to me a few years later, would that mean my current ex could loop back to me as well? Are relationships a cycle, that even when broken we remain in?  If that's true,  that's just another reason why dating is such a complicated matter.

I was discussing this with my roommate.  And I said something I never thought I would say. "Maybe our parents got it right."   When my parents dated, they had this concept of "going steady". I feel like that is lost today. Today it appears we have two levels of relationships--casual hook ups or the pseudo marriage.  Both are intense, and don't leave room for dating. Maybe this is why ex's return to our lives.  We missed that opportunity to date, get to know each other, and than make next steps.

I haven't responded to the college ex's text.