he's just not that into you

 "They come to believe that the sex they see around them is love. And when they find out that it isn't, they can only resort to conversations with each other or glib self-help books like He's Just Not that Into You and Be Honest -- You're Not That into Him Either. " Unhooked

To friend request or not, that is the question. I was thinking about sending a friend request to a guy last night. I mean how else are you supposed to get to know someone. Eventually, someone has to take the initiative. Then that stupid book popped into my head He's Just Not That Into You. I hate this book. I never should have read it. It all happened after hanging out with a guy I thought I liked-- who never called. 

This term that was popularized by Sex and the City. Makes sense, if a guy isn't calling or paying you attention maybe he isn't into you. BUT this book takes it to a whole new level.  We are already confused enough, did we really need a book to tell us just do NOTHING, if he calls, texts, emails, and facebooks then he is into you if he doesn't he's not.  Does this mean I am supposed to be completely passive, and let guys come to me? What happened to empowerment.  OR is that what lead us to this point. Women behaving like men. 

So to friend request or not....I think I will wait another week.